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You focused on one thing and ignored the parts where I said "because women are USED to sexual attention" and because it won't "set you apart" from any other men.

 

Did I say "Women will hate you if you like sex"? No I didn't so just settle yourselves down.

 

And yes, there are far more women who are "sick of" sexual attention in general than there are women who are impressed by/needing/looking for it.

 

Sorry if that's hard to believe, but women don't equate "sexual attention" with "guy who likes me".

 

And Anonymous, I think it's great if you want to get and give love and have a relationship and all that...

 

but "practicing" on or using women who you aren't so interested in isn't something that will improve you as a man or improve your romantic skills (and definitely not quality of women) either.

 

There are tons of women who are fine with a one night stand or a NSA relationship and there isn't really a good reason to be manipulating, lying, or misleading women into thinking you are genuinely interested in them.

 

Practice on women who are fine with a casual relationship and just be honest about it. It's not like lying about tricking is actually going to win you a woman, so why bother getting used to doing it?

 

April 15, 2010 2:56:00 PM EST

Shedcat said...

I can think of two people who I know do not have any women in their lives and are completely as Assanova describes - and the women flock to them. Patience is a good word, and lack of pressure, but I think it is also something about being calm, collected, and confident. Going to a bar or party, these people stroll amicably along, at a fairly slow pace, and do not get excited at anything, and women come to them. They will gladly have an easy conversation with anyone.

 

April 16, 2010 12:39:00 AM EST

randian said...

I was willing to wait as long as it took to get the girl I wanted. Until that happened, I was totally cool being friends.

 

All you're really saying here is that how a woman chooses to perceive a given set of facts depends on how attractive she perceives you to be. For the sufficiently attractive man, patience means "potential for later". For the insufficiently attractive man, patience means "he's not interested, LJBF or dump at leisure".